There are so many ways to approach the topic of selfcare, and I want to begin by saying that what works for one person does not necessarily work for everyone. In my experience, self care is a personal and intimate experience that requires you to take the time to figure out. Figure out what is the most loving thing you can do for yourself.
Sometimes self care can be spending time in nature. It can be journaling with a cup of tea by the fire. It can be getting a massage, or taking a bath.
Self care can also be letting go of people, places, and things that no longer serve you. It could be walking away from a job that is soul-sucking. It could be walking away from a relationship that is not honoring or loving, or it could be leaving a place that no longer feels like home.
So the reality of self-care really means: “what is the most loving thing I can do for myself in this now moment?” and then being brave enough to do it. Being brave enough to step forward and create the life, the vision, and the boundary that you need IS self care.
Selfcare can also include setting stronger boundaries. So often, people think boundaries aren't loving, but actually, boundaries are one of the most loving things that you can do for yourself and those that are in your life.
Self care will take bravery, speaking your truth and allowing yourself to possibly make other people feel uncomfortable for just a moment. But the reality is the people that love you and honor you, and that are meant to be in your life will also honor your boundaries. The truth is, if someone doesn’t honor and respect your self-care boundaries, they probably weren’t meant to be there, anyway.
So, today, I’d like to ask you: What does self-care mean to you? What is the most loving thing you can do for yourself today?
I’d love to hear how your path to radical self care has impacted your life. Please feel free to share your story with me or reach out if you need support in creating a more solid self care practice in your life.